Phew... had a wonderful weekend. I usually read blogs while I'm at work and I've been off for a few days. This morning, while still at home, I decided to check in on a few pages that I read... DC10's and my friend Tanya's. DC's page had some interesting comments on it. A lot about relationships. Some of them made me bristle a little about how direct the young ladies were with what they had to say. So, i've decided to make a few of my own opinions moderately public for viewing and comments as well.
Since it's such a multifaceted topic I'm going to spill out different components over the next few days.
I believe first, before seeking a spouse. A person should be sure that they are complete and whole. That may seem a bit redundant, but let me explain. By complete, I mean that they are a well-rounded individual complete with a career/job, education, personal relationship with Christ (not necessarily in that order). Personal questions that can be asked may be (1) Am I able to afford the lifestyle that I want with the job/career that I have? (2) Have I Completed my personal educational ambitions? (3) Do I spend time developing personal interests, hobbies and goals for continued personal development (4) Do I know what my purpose in Christ is?...Am I on track to pursue it? (5) If/When I get married, how long am I expecting it to last?
When determining if I am whole, some questions that could be asked are "My heart has been broken before... is it healed, or have I just become numb or desensitized to the pain?" Am I well-rounded, do I have outside interests and activities... am I willing to include my new partner into these. Am I ready/able to complete my spouse? Am I ready to be an instrument for God to use in another person's life?
5 comments:
I totally agree with all that, I especially focus on those internal fixings...those qualities of virtue that make you READY... so many marriages fail for just that reason either or both not being READY. Women not knowing what it means to be a Wife and Men not knowing what it means to be a husband...biblically speaking.
thx for the comment. i'll probably throw out some more stuff in a day or two.
I agree.
Yeah, we can be raw in our comments on DC's blog. Just being true and real without inhibitions.
oh my word, hamil10. that post was the bomb..Im sorry that I didnt see it sooner.
It was very thought provoking and I felt educated.
Pleaes continue to drop knowledge out here.
p.s. thanks for the shout out on your post.
I like the way you think. That was on point.
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